You and your partner started a relationship that flourished into something that you treasure, yet it is deteriorating due to communication issues. You are not the only ones going through this, as communication problems are the most common reasons for couples splitting up. The following guide will help you with a few exercises that may help you and your partner.
A 4 Minute Interlude Of Connection
One of the reasons that communication might be hard to achieve between you and your partner might be due to a poor connection. This exercise is simple and should help both of you reestablish that connection needed to feel more comfortable; this will help with communication.
All you have to do is sit directly across from each other and stare into each other's eyes. Do so without talking or looking away for 4 minutes. One thing that may help is turning on some music (women, for example, feel a little more open and romantic hearing romantic music according to a study).
The Communication Timer
Another thing that you can try is to use a timer to give each other an opportunity to talk. Just set your timer to 5 to 10 minutes, although this number is negotiable, and let your partner speak. You will have to listen without any interruptions or distractions while your partner speaks. And you have an opportunity to speak when your partner is done with his or her turn.
A List Of 5 Impromptu Lovelies
This is a great and fun communication exercise (or game) that you and your partner can try. The game involves you and your partner taking turns at choosing a subject at random times once every week. This subject could be some of the following:
- 5 favorite statements said by each other.
- 5 sweet and recent actions directed at each other.
- 5 things that made you feel grateful to have your partner.
You can get as creative as you want with these themes, but it will encourage communication. And it might make both you and your partner seek more ways to be interesting before the next theme is randomly brought up. Remember to take turns with who gets to choose the theme each week.
You can talk to a relationship counselor (such as Sharon O'Connell, MA) about these ideas, or ask him or her for more if you want to be more proactive at home. But, as you can see, there is a lot you and your partner can do to build a deeper connection and improve your communication.